Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Self-Love is Resilience

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Domestic Violence Awareness Month stemmed from a singular day. In October of 1981, the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence designated a “Day of Unity” to help acknowledge and celebrate all of the work being done to fight against domestic violence. That singular day then became a week; and in 1987, that week then became a full month of acknowledgment and awareness. Finally in 1989, the U.S. congress officially marked October as Domestic Violence Awareness Month to be recognized nationally.

At RAINN, we acknowledge and participate in Domestic Violence Awareness Month by offering hope, support, and healing to anyone who has ever been, or is currently, in a domestic violence situation/relationship. We are here to stand in solidarity with you. If you have left a domestic violence situation or relationship, or if you are currently in an unsafe relationship/situation, affirmations can be practiced to instill self-love and compassion in your life.

Affirmations and positive self-talk can be extremely powerful for your mental health and perception of self. Laura Silberstein-Tirch, PsyD states, “One way we learn self-compassionate understanding for our bodily experiences is by using a caring tone of voice. How we talk to ourselves is an important part of self-compassion. The tone of voice we use with ourselves, even if just in our minds, can greatly influence our feelings, in much the same way other people’s words and tone of voice do.”1

It is often shocking to leave a domestic violence relationship mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. You may feel alone in building your life back up. You are starting a new chapter in your life; for anyone, that can be extremely challenging as well as courageous. As you continue to navigate your healing journey, here are some affirmations that you can say or write on sticky notes to surround yourself with love, understanding, and compassion.

  • I am strong
  • I am capable of making my own choices
  • I am beautiful
  • I am smart
  • I am a survivor
  • I am a part of the world. I deserve to be here.

1"How to Be Nice to Yourself: The Everyday Guide to Self-Compassion." Accessed 20 Oct. 2022.

It’s important that you take care of yourself, too. You can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673) or visit and receive confidential support. If you feel that you are currently in a dangerous situation, please try to safely contact the Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799 SAFE (7233) or through the Domestic Violence Online Chat Online chat hotline or text START to 88788.