Get the Facts About Sexual Violence Against Men & Boys

Sexual violence can and does affect anyone and everyone. Yet, one group is often left out of the conversation: men and boys.

One leading resource for male survivors, 1in6.org, advises that the true numbers may be even higher. That’s because male survivors are much less likely than women to acknowledge or report being sexually abused or assaulted.

Perhaps because of rigid stereotypes around masculinity, many men and boys suffer in silence—unseen, unsupported, and disbelieved.

It’s time to change that.

The Truth About Male Survivors

When sexual assault happens to men and boys, it often carries an extra-heavy load of stigma. Male survivors might feel shame, confusion, or the pressure to “man up” and move on.

Many male survivors struggle with:

• Self-doubt. “Shouldn’t I have fought back?”

• Physiological confusion. “What does it mean that I had an erection or ejaculated?”

• Masculinity myths. “Does this make me less of a man?”

• Sexual orientation questions. “Am I still straight/gay?”

These reactions are normal. None of them change the fact that what happened was not your fault.

Let’s be clear: a physical response during an assault is involuntary. It does not mean you wanted it. It does not mean you enjoyed it. And it does not mean you consented.

Who Commits Sexual Violence Against Males?

Like all sexual violence survivors, most male survivors know their abuser.

These offenders may use force, manipulation, or grooming tactics to gain control. Some use shame or twisted logic—“You liked it”—to maintain secrecy.

That’s abuse, plain and simple.

The Impacts on Male Survivors

Sexual violence can leave deep emotional scars. Male survivors are more likely than other men and boys to experience:

• PTSD and depression (139) (140) (146)
• Alcohol and drug abuse (139) (147)
• Suicidal ideation and attempts (139) (147)
• Difficulties in intimate relationships (139) (148)
• Problems at school and work (139) (148)

You may feel like no one will believe you—or that you’re the only one. You’re not. And support is out there.

Supporting Men & Boys Who Disclose

If someone tells you they were sexually assaulted, how you respond matters. You don’t need to have all the answers. Just show up.

Here’s how:

• Listen fully. Resist the urge to jump in with advice or questions.

• Affirm their courage. Say, “I believe you.” Or “That sounds incredibly difficult.”

• Avoid probing for details. Let them share only what they want, when they want.

• Offer resources. Connect them to a trained support person, not just a friend or online forum.

Remember: even if the survivor appears “fine,” trauma doesn’t always look like tears or panic attacks. Healing can be slow, non-linear, and deeply personal.

Healing Is Possible

Whether you experienced sexual assault as a child, teen, or adult, you are not alone—and you don’t have to stay silent. 

Here are a few steps that can help:

• Find a trauma-informed therapist. Look for professionals who specialize in supporting survivors of sexual trauma. Learn more.
• Reach out. You can contact RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline by phone, chat, or text. It’s free, anonymous, and available 24/7.
• Report the crime. Learn about your reporting options and what to expect from the criminal justice system.

Let’s End the Silence

Sexual violence against men and boys isn’t rare—it’s just rarely acknowledged. But that doesn’t mean it’s any less real or damaging.

If you’re a survivor, your pain is valid. Your story matters. And healing is possible.

Together, we can break the silence.