Sexual violence is never the victim’s fault. But for many college-age adults, recognizing and responding to abuse can be difficult—especially when the perpetrator is someone they know.
According to the Association of American Universities, nearly one in four undergraduate women at major U.S. universities has experienced sexual assault or misconduct. Among undergraduate students, 26.4% of women and 6.8% of men reported rape or sexual assault through physical force, violence, or incapacitation. And in 80% of cases, the perpetrator is someone the survivor knows.¹ ²
Recognizing the Warning Signs
While some signs may be related to the general stress of college life, it’s better to check in and be wrong than to stay silent and risk a loved one struggling alone.
Look for:
- Persistent sadness, fatigue, or changes in sleep or eating habits
- Withdrawing from activities, social events, or academics
- Signs of self-harm or suicidal thoughts
- New or increased substance use
- Avoiding certain people, places, or situations
- Unexplained STIs or STDs
- Declining grades or class attendance
In the Context of a Relationship
Sexual violence often occurs within dating relationships. A seemingly loving partner may pressure their partner into sex or control their reproductive choices. Learn more about relationship abuse at the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
Watch for signs such as:
- Withdrawing from friends, classes, or social events
- Disclosing assault or coercion
- Partner refusing contraception or STI protection
- Visible physical injuries or sudden weight loss
- Partner limiting communication or isolating them
How to Offer Support
If you’re worried about someone, open the door for conversation:
- “I’ve missed you—if something’s going on, I’m always here to talk.”
- “I heard something about [person’s name]. Have you had any bad experiences with them?”
- “Did something happen after the party last weekend?”
SOURCES
- David Cantor, Bonnie Fisher, Susan Chibnall, Reanna Townsend, et. al. Association of American Universities (AAU), Report on the AAU Campus Climate Survey on Sexual Assault and Sexual Misconduct (January 17, 2020).
- Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, Bureau of Justice Statistics, National Crime Victimization Survey, 2010-2016 (2017).